I became afraid that when my partner developed feelings for another person, their emotions in my situation would diminish.
But love and intimacy aren’t finite resources.
But closeness and love aren’t finite resources. A lot like just just just how having a child that is secondn’t prompt you to love the very first one any less. In reality, lots of people in polyamorous relationships — including myself — discover that being with another person only makes you appreciate your spouse much more. And undoubtedly it’s only a little impractical to anticipate emotions won’t develop from a relationship that is intimate.
I’m open to pursuing intimate connections with other individuals in whatever means they may form, whether that is something casual or something which resembles a lot more of a relationship that is serious. But for me, James will be my main always partner. We can’t imagine having this type of profound reference to someone else.